The Five Love Languages

My primary love language is probably
Quality Time
with a secondary love language being
Physical Touch.

Complete set of results

Quality Time:		9
Physical Touch:		8
Acts of Service:		7
Receiving Gifts:		3
Words of Affirmation:		3

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Unhappiness in relationships, according to Dr. Gary Chapman, is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. Sometimes we don't understand our partner's requirements, or even our own. We all have a "love tank" that needs to be filled in order for us to express love to others, but there are different means by which our tank can be filled, and there are different ways that we can express love to others.

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Indeed, I do value quality time very highly. If you ask me, communication is THE main bridge that connects two people together, and THE main foundation on which strong relationships are built upon.

We can give without loving, but we can never truly love without giving. How can love be nurtured and maintained when one or both party are not willing to invest time to engage and understand each other better? How can anyone so claim to love when he/she is not even making time for the significant other?

One thing for certain - I definitely don't believe in telepathy.


Physical touch. It never fails to melt my heart whenever I catch sight of aged couples, with wrinkling skin and graying hair, still gently holding hands and gazing into each others' eyes lovingly after decades of marriage. Enough said. The mere image conjured by this sentence alone is powerful enough.
=)


Gifts and words of affirmation are not placed high in my priority list. Love, in my humble opinion, can never be measured materially. Gifts that are handmade and loaded with sincerity, efforts, and tender love are, of course, a totally different matter.

And people nowadays are so careless with their words. The word "love" is sooo mightly overused and tremendously under-estimated.

"I love to sleep."
"I love you."

What? Does this indirectly translated into that you love me as much, and as deeply, as you love your sleep?


See what I mean?


So don't heap and bombard your loved ones with expensive gifts or "I love you"s. Occasionally is fine, but don't smugly assume that that's all there is to it (fat hope). If love is so easy, then it is not real love. If love is so easy, Jesus would not need to die on the cross for us.

Rather, replace gifts and words of affirmation with acts of service. Surely actions speak louder than words. A simple act can travel a long mile and do wonders.

Do things that you would normally not do - even the little things which may seem insignificant.. Help him/her clean up his/her dog poo. Cook his/her favourite dishes. Make him/her a personal, handmade gift for special occasions. Bake him/her a humble cake. Aid in solving his/her problems. Render sound advices and honest opinions. Lend him/her your ears and shoulders. Speak encouragingly when the situation calls for it. Rebuke tenderly when the need arises. Surprise him/her with a, well, surprise.


Afterall, love is ultimately about sacrifices.